Page references for folks!

Selva's side of the conflict :

• Selva's conpulsive overprotectiveness. https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/realization
• Selva's (understandable but hurtful) first reaction to the curse. https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/strangers-not-welcomed
• Selva routinely ignoring Warrick's concerns to get what she wants : https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/emma39s-new-bodyguards
• https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/chiseri39s-influence
• Warrick noting that he knows Selva doesn't really trust him. https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/memory-of-a-song-part-8
• Selva putting her hangups into words directly. https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/wool-and-water-part-8
• Shadow going lol you are a bit of a jerk. https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/beautiful-anger
• Shadow be like hummm dang you got issues, girl. https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/betrayer

Warrick's side of the conflict :

• Warrick being told he's draining Selva's powers : https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/power-drain
• Warrick first choosing to avoid the subject : https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/dawnish
• Warrick going full wicked again : https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/the-wicked-witch-of-the-west
• The consequences of his actions : https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/drained
• Warrick actively telling Selva as they are about to die : https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/shield-drop

Namesake has a lot of "everyone is wrong" situations  where someone temporarily "wins" the debate until the next page. Selva had time to think while she weaved about why the Shadow would grab her and not Warrick. Warrick did screw up, but Selva build a relationship where he felt he had to be perfect and hide new mistakes. It's a feedback loop both twins need to fix!

Selva first realization of it here : https://www.namesakecomic.com/comic/selva